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The Highbury Blog

The core purpose of this Blog is to share our understanding of what ‘Knowing Boys’ means in the teaching and learning context at Highbury. Bianca in the marketing department usually writes the blog posts, typically based on talks with staff at Highbury, and with the intention to be both useful and inspiring to our parents.

Our blog also includes an Eco-Blog section, which tracks our progress and accomplishments as an Eco-School.

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Modern-day Parenting

Added on 25/10/2019

Mrs Kirsten Baldocchi, Clinical Psychologist, discusses the recent shifts in parenting.

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Boarding in the 60s - Memories from Peter Bolton (Class of 1968)

Added on 25/09/2019

"I will always say with a smile that my time as a boarder at Highbury were some of the...

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Growing a Growth Mindset - Michelle Jones

Added on 02/08/2019

Michelle Jones compares a Growth Mindset to gaming.

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Why Character is More Important Than Ability

Added on 02/08/2019

Tim Jarvis speaks about "No, your child is not gifted"

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Aspects of the Reggio Emilia Approach - Jill Sachs

Added on 02/08/2019

The Reggio Emilia approach has changed the way we think, teach and learn at Weavers' Nest

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Dear Books. Thanks for Everything. Love Me xx

Added on 01/08/2019

Lisa van Bronckhorst takes a trip down memory lane and reminisces about how books have changed her...

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Joseph McKenzie reflects on his Highbury days

Added on 11/03/2019

At our 2019 Open Day, Kearsney Prefect Joseph Mckenzie joined us as a guest speaker to describe how...

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Life in the Library

Added on 01/03/2019

Our librarian, Lisa van Bronkhorst, wrote a wonderful article for our 2018 School Magazine about...

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Boy-centric Creative Writing: C-POW!

Added on 21/11/2018

Boys are more than twice as likely as girls to say they hate writing. That's why Highbury is...

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What makes Grade R at Highbury unique?

Added on 24/05/2018

Grade R is Highbury's biggest point of entry - what a boycentric and fun year it is!

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Added on 27/02/2018


Our termly talks by our LAD Centre therapists are such a wonderful inspiration to the parents and staff who are able to attend. This week Sia Rees and Rebecca Simpson, both Counselling Psychologists, presented a talk based on a Willow Creek Community Church podcast, which they adjusted and added to, on the topic of 'Ten Traits of Highly Effective Families'. Here is a brief summary:

Today's families have changed, many are blended families, with divorce or separation common. There are also increasing number of parents who travel a lot and more families with grandparents living with them. None of these things make a family any more or less meaningful or successful. The make-up of the family is not what counts - it's what you do within your family, whatever the make-up is.  Here are ten traits that are seen in highly effective families:

1) Every person in the family feels treasured

This can be through the use of words and also actions. Set an example to your child in how to verbalize feelings: tell them how loved they are, what you like about them, what you're proud of. Use birthdays and special occasions as opportunities to validate your children and don't forget the daily actions like hugs, cuddles, high fives - whatever you can think of that grows a sense of them being special. Psychologist Steve Biddulph says, "Give children understanding and time, not criticism and money."

2) Open communication

We need to be able to say difficult things graciously. Open communication is something you intentionally work on, and learning to "speak the truth in love to one another" starts with Mum and Dad. Listening is an important part of open communication and we know that boys talk better when sitting shoulder to shoulder rather than direct eye to eye. 

3) Celebrating uniqueness

Most families are made up of individuals who are complete polar opposites! The goal is to discover and encourage the uniqueness of each individual and to celebrate difference. This is really difficult because as much as we don't want to admit it, we have preconceived ideas of what we want for our children. We have to try to let go of what we hope they will be, but rather facilitate who they are meant to be!

4) Feeling safe

Healthy families realise that some actions are so deeply harmful to an individual in the family that they need to be outlawed, for example abuse of any kind. The family needs to be a space of emotional safety in which you can create connections, rather than alienation or shame. 

5) Common faith

A strong, shared spiritual base is a foundation that can guide your family. It creates security and clarity, in a way it sets the 'rules' for the family. If you're not especially spiritual as a family then work hard on creating a shared family ethos and teach your children those values from as early as possible. 

6) Respect

Parents should display respect and acceptance as a core value right from the start. 90% of communication is non-verbal and your children will treat people the way you do - think about how you treat kitchen staff, grounds staff, waiters or those who are physically and mentally challenged. Children learn acceptance from their parents - encourage them to be curious about difference and to stand up against racism or any person who is disrespecting another person.

7) Responsibility

You do your children no favors when you give them no responsibilities. As much as your children dislike responsibility, it is such an integral and important part of their growth. They need chores and they need to learn not to be takers. Healthy families instill responsibility in each other, without overloading your children or making them slaves! You need to access the amount of responsibility that is age appropriate and every year it will shift. Not only are chores important life skills, but they also instill a sense of dedication to their family, which is good both for the family and for the individual. 

8) Learn to play together

Play brings the family together and we learn about each other while playing. Playing removes stress, calms everyone down and makes everyone laugh. Whether the play is riding bikes, camping trips or board games, what matters is to invite engagement and get onto the same level as your child. 

9) Celebrate meaningful rituals and traditions

When you think back to your childhood, often what stands out are the little traditions and rituals. They are the little patterns we develop together - some come from your childhood, some we create together, some your children will create. The value behind rituals and traditions is a feeling of security and continuity into the future. 

10) Seek help

We all have points of tension and rough patches no matter how healthy our family is. Families are so fragile and it is so important to fix things when they go wrong. Work on creating a culture of open communication and remember that it takes a village to raise a child - talk to someone, go to a class, see a counselor, go to your church - seek help when you need it.

Highly effective families are those that have deep, meaningful and lasting connections. They are like an island of safety amidst the stormy sea of life. 

Thank you to Willow Creek Community Church for such a valuable podcast as the basis for this talk!